بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم
Dear fellow readers, may Allah bless you always. ^^
Hello you! Alhamdulillah ala kulli hal wa astaghfirullah min kulli zanbi.. It's been 12 days since we have entered the new year of 1436 Hijrah. Happy 12 Muharram everyone! Let's keep on walking in His path, continue our journey in Dunya as His devoted caliph, living our life only for the sake of His redha and to achieve His jannah! In Sha Allah.. Hmm. By the way, I don't want to talk a lot here. Actually I came across an article in Facebook about "Marriage". Ehem yesss, I repeat, "Marriage"! Hee. And I found that it's so interesting uhmm why not I share it over here so that anyone could read this including myself. Ohor. :P So, let's keep calm and read with Basmallah.. :)
Prophet Muhammad saw said:
"The Most blessed Nikah is the one with the least expenses." - (HR Bayhaq)
What is stopping you from completing half of your Deen by getting married? Is it university, fear of responsibility, commitment, cold feet, career, a bad experience, etc? Remember that Shaytan wants to do everything possible to keep you alone and away from making a family with a home, and he also works even harder to break that family and the home. Maybe you don't really know the value of getting married and it's importance in Islam. So this is a must read for you, please continue reading until the end.
Ibn Mas’ood said:
"If I only had ten days to live and I knew that I would die at the end of them,
and I had any desire to get married, I would get married, for fear of fitnah (temptation)."
It was narrated that Sa’eed ibn Jubayr said, Ibn ‘Abbaas said to me:
"Have you gotten married?" I said: "No." He said:
“Get married, for the best of this ummah are the ones with the most wives.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5069)
Ibraaheem ibn Maysarah said, Tawoos said to me:
"Either get married, or I will say to you what ‘Umar said to Abu’l-Zawaa’id,
nothing is keeping you from getting married except impotence or immorality."
If you have something that you want to achieve – such as a certificate, a position, a project and so on – and you say that you want to achieve that first, then you will get married, we say to you: why are you ignoring marriage for that reason?
Marriage has never been a barrier to achieving things, rather in most cases it is a support and a help. That is just the whispering of the shaytaan, which he has instilled in the minds of many young men and women so that it has become prevalent in our culture and society, and you hear many of those who have delayed their own marriages or the marriages of their sons and daughters saying such things, and our society has become burdened with problems resulting from large numbers of single men and women, and the delay of marriage, but despite that we have not seen any achievement, development or progress, whereas the first generation of Muslims used to hasten to do good and they did not delay marriage, and their achievements were the greatest and most complete of achievements.
What is required is to work hard to get married, and no young man or young woman should delay marriage for the sake of studies, because marriage does not prevent any such thing. It is possible for a young man and women to get married in order to protect their religious commitment and morals, and enable them to lower their gaze and protect their chastity and to complete half of their Deen.
Marriage serves many purposes, especially in this day and age of fitnah (temptation). Because delaying it is harmful for both young women and young men, every young man and every young woman should work hard to get married if there is a man who is compatible with the woman, and if a man can find the right woman. And over and above all that, how about if you realize that marriage will protect half of your Deen?
It was narrated from Anas ibn Maalik r.a that the Prophet saw said:
"Whomever Allah has blessed with a righteous wife,
He has helped him with half of his religion,
so let him fear God with regard to the other half."
Narrated by al-Haakim in al-Mustadrak (2/175).
How about if you realize that by getting married,
you will have followed the advice of the Messenger of God saw when he said:
"O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married,
for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim.
How about if you realize that by producing a righteous child you will have ongoing charity (sadaqah jaariyah), if you raise him with good morals and faith, and you will be rewarded for your marriage if you seek the reward with Allah(God) for that? By getting married, you will be protecting yourself, lowering your gaze, and closing the door to one of the greatest means by which the shaytaan deceives people. You may not feel the seriousness of that now, but fitnah (temptation) may come from places a person does not realize, so you should be keen to close the door before it is opened without you realizing it.
The Prophet Muhammad saw said:
"I have not left behind me any fitnah (temptation, trial) more harmful to men than women."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim.
Today women are also tempted big time with all of the immorality that is out there. So Instead of falling into the Major sin of Zina (sexual immorality, fornication, adultery, illicit sex, etc.) get married. What in the world are you waiting for? Marriage is a source of tranquility and peace, and it is the best of the pleasures of this world. In it is that which God has made a sign for His slaves, and He has mentioned it in His Book the Quran so that they may think and ponder the greatness of His might, may He be glorified and exalted. God Almighty Allah says (interpretation of the meaning),
"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find tranquillity in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect." - [QS 30:21]
Can there be any hesitation after this? Be resolved,committed and determined and put your trust in Allah and work towards it, and Allah will help you, and will provide you with a righteous wife or husband who will help you to obey your Lord and He will bless you with righteous offspring who will be a stored treasure for you with Allah in the Hereafter. Marriage is also among the good matters that one should take the initiative and work towards to accomplish; Allah says (what means),
"For each [religious following] is a direction toward which it faces. So race to [all that is] good. Wherever you may be, Allah will bring you forth [for judgement] all together. Indeed, Allah is over all things competent." - [QS 2:148]
So, it is not wise to delay marriage, rather obstacles should not be put to prevent it, especially in regard to women because if they are advanced in age, they will have a much harder time for someone to propose to them, and therefore, they would remain unmarried. There is no doubt that this causes sorrow and misery in this worldly life while much benefit is lost because of that. So what are you waiting for after all of this has reached you? Make dua, get serious, talk with your family and work hard to get married so that you can complete half of your Deen and get to Jannah. Remember that..
"Restraint is praiseworthy except in three things."
People asked, "And what are they o Abu Bakar?"
"Make haste to do the righteous deed, hurry to conduct the funeral of your deceased,
and marry the girl in your charge to a suitable man [as soon as you find him]."
Saidina Abu Bakar r.a.
And don’t forget the most important thing to look for in a person is their Deen, Manners & Character and keep it simple don’t complicate things. Masha Allah.. It's a long entry with full of advises isn't it? What about you yourself dear Qish Darleena? Why you haven't get married? Uhmmm.. No comment by the way! xD :P May Allah ease my matters, my beloved's matters, your matters and everyone's matters Aamiin Aamiin ya Rabb In Sha Allah. Thank you for reading! ^^
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